Holidays can be landmines, or they can be joyful.
Every memory of Jennifer at Christmas can be difficult, so reflection on the state of my heart and mind are essential. If I don’t consider the impact of memories, I am a target for an ambush of grief.
I try to do a heart-check during this season of the year. Will Jennifer’s paper plate angel bring on waves of sadness? Will ornaments we bought just for her be painful reminders of our loss?
Reflection can be tricky. Too much dwelling on sad memories will not be helpful for me. Finding a balance is essential. I expect some sadness during the holidays, but I also know that grief may show up after the holidays as well. (See my post on “An Uninvited Guest”.)
Finding a “one-size-fits all” answer to navigate painful memories is impossible. Staying busy might be the best for some people, while others find giving, serving, and helping keep the focus away from self.
I’ve learned I do best if I’m not stressed about deadlines or feel pressured to attend every program, party, or event.
The best reflections any time of the year are those that lead me to a quiet space of communion with the Father where I reflect on the greatest gift He gave me, His Son.
May your season of remembering be filled with joy.
Today I am thankful for the season in which we reflect on
- the coming of an infant who saved the world
- an infant’s birth in the humble stable
- a birth promised through the ages: years of slavery and wanderings, decades of kings and prophets, hundreds of years of conquering and exile
- the day when God became man and lived among us